What should I do?
A. Send her an email (seems a bit passive aggressive)
B. Respond to the next crazy comment she makes (I don't want to seem like the crazy person!)
C. Talk to the conductor about switching seats (Seems overly-dramatic)
D. Put super glue on her chair
You choose the ending!
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This is a tough-y! I think I might try the kill it with kindness approach. Maybe try pointing out something good about the person your neighbor is disparaging? (too passive aggressive?) Honestly, if it were me, I'm guessing I would avoid the whole thing and ask the director to move me pleading that I can't see or hear something important. But you my friend are a much better person than I and I'm sure you'll figure out the best way to handle it.
I vote for the second choice. Then again, I'm not afraid of confrontation. A simple "Listen, I'm sorry that you aren't pleased with [insert name here] right now, but I'm trying to focus and I would appreciate it if you would keep your comments to yourself" could make you the bad guy, but she would know not to mess around with you.
D. Definitely D.
...only if I can have pictures xx
I'm trying to think if there's a polite way you can say, "You're totally rude and I need you to stop."
Maybe something like, hey, let's just try to bring more positive energy into pracice.
I always prefer a direct appraoch, but for people who do not prefer direct appraoches, they can react very badly. The last thing you want is to have this fellow choir member imagining there is some feud between the two of you. I have a feeling she'd be mean.
So here's what I did. I tried to pick the least passive-aggressive thing, which I felt, was talking to her.
Right after practice I said, "Hey, I appreciate that you're trying to help with your comments, but it's wearing a little thin. Do you think you could just worry about yourself for a bit, and let me learn at my own pace? Thanks." Word for word.
To which, she got extremely flustered. Oh well. Hopefully she'll leave me alone now. And hopefully she'll be cool about it next week.
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